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Jamie's Story

my name is jamie elyse gomer. i was born at 2:10 pm on april 15th, 1969 at rolling hill hospital. the lawyer who handled the case was named seymour canter. i have talked with him for the first time the other day, and today he called me back and said my file had been destroyed, that there was only a 3 x 5 card with my name, my parents, and the woman who carried me in her stomach for 9 months(i am not that comfortable with calling her my natural or biological mother). of course he could not give me her name, but strangely enough he told me there were 4 letters in her last name. how bizarre! and like all information i get, just a tease to leave me hanging a little higher. last year in the summer i began searching, or at least finding out the process through the web while i was in alaska. this winter i checked vital statistics for any biological consents(nada!!!), and afterwards, did the non-id request through the family courts of philadelphia. i had talked on the phone with joy o'neil and was pleased with how helpful she seemed to me. more than helpful she seemed to care about the position i was in and offered to send me a list of books and support groups to help me while searching.

she said it could take up to six months for a reply so i was surprised when i received an answer so fast(a month and a half or so). the reply was helpful i suppose but left me aching even more. i found out that the woman was 22 years old and seperated from her husband(whom was NOT the man who helped conceive me, hence the seperation i imagine), and that i had an older brother and sister, ages 4 and 3 respectively, at the time of my birth. roman catholic on both sides was about the only info i got. no nationality/bloodline, no medical info, nothing!!! the letter also said that a letter was forwarded to my "natural mother" and that i would hear something whenever there was a reply.

so, while all this is taking place my dad came down with cancer and i came back to philadelphia for 6 weeks to spend time with my folks(i live in colorado in the winter, alaska in the summer, and sometimes moab,utah in the spring and fall), and while here deceided to go and meet joy o'neil and find out what letter she sent to this woman. so it was just standard "call me after receiving this blah blah blah. . . ."

but it was good to meet joy. she is kind and her eyes have a genuine warmth and empathy to them. her energy is soft , she cares. but everyone's hands seem binded. it is so sad for me. it took a loooong time for me to be ready for this(i am 29 years old), and every day the folks i share blood with get older and more of our lives go on. to add to this something happened while i was in the womb and my uterus did not form correctly. i cannot have children and am once again denied that bond of being part of someone in a blood/tissue/dna kind of way.

it is sad for me. i sometimes feel unrooted and floating. belonging to no-one. everyone thinks i am such a free spirit and i am, but like all folks i need some grounding. it should be no surprise that i am an herbalist and work with plants(even here in philadelphia i picked up a part-time job in a greenhouse), they teach me much about being rooted.

but many beautiful things have also resulted. i do not really have a nationality and i have never clung to a nation's borders as my own. i have never said"I AM GERMAN or I am FRENCH" or any of those things. i have always felt as if i came from the Earth(the one thing i am sure of, tho' sometimes i wonder:), and felt one with all creatures, humans animals and plants. and sometimes i used to think that my gypsy way was a result of being adopted. but if it is, it has been a blessing.

not only have i been to asia, europe twice and central america twice but i have been up and down and all around this beautiful country we call the usa. i have lived in the desert and on a thousand mile mesa high up in the mountains. i have spent a summer in alaska backpacking with wolves and bears. and most of all, i have not one or two, but three incredibly wonderful communities that support and love me(moab,utah, carbondale, colorado and yes, philadelphia). a couple of my friends are mid-wives and i have been blessed to be at some births.

seeing what transpires in that time leaves me aching with a need to meet the woman who i shared that with. what an incredibly powerful time. i wonder what it was like for her, and the pregnancy itself. was it riddled with stress and pain knowing she was to carry me to give me up. i sense not. i have tried some rebirthing but it is difficult to access those memories. they are our first (in the womb), of this lifetime and they are locked pretty deep. oh, i have begun to ramble.

i hope it is o-kay and you do not think i am a kook. oh, i guess that is o-kay too! but i am not a kook, i am just like every-one else here.

i am looking for some-one who 29 years ago i spent 9 months inside of forming a relationship. i wonder where i get my height from(i am almost 6 feet tall) and my 1000 watt smile. i wonder if my husky voice that folks like so much has been passed down to me and what about my optimistic natural high in life, do they come from somewhere? have i created them or were they in the blueprint? and half brothers and sisters??? that is almost too much for me to comprehend. i went out with a man for 7 years who had a brother that looked identical. it never ceased to amaze me. by the way, my eyes often fill up when reading these posts. especially the ones of late from birthmoms answering whether they think of the children they gave up. i always wonder if she thinks of me. thanks for listening. i have barely begun to scratch the surface, but this is more than enough. i send out my deepest prayers and bleesings to you all in your searches, and love too, jamie elyse gomer

p.s sex:female(in case that was not clear)
official info DOB: 04/15/69 2:10 PM
hospital : Rolling Hill Hospital

Update

just a short message to let you know that i have been found

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