Notes: Hehehe… oooh, lookie, its 6:00 now… I think I’m
WAY too tired, but I’m havin’ fun anyway.
Chapter 2 Sex or lovemaking and is there a difference?
Well, that depends on your perspective, and what you hope to accomplish taking this person to bed. If you’re not with someone you love, why not go find a plastic friend? Oh, Sorry thinking of my ex… but if you are serious about the real living breathing person you are with, then you should want to see that person hot and aching for your touch. Humans really need to be touched, that is why our skin is so very soft and touchable… Exploring your partner’s body is a very erotic experience, especially if, like me you have never experienced it before and you meet someone who touches you everywhere… Your heart, with his tenderness, your spirit with his patience and very slowly covers your entire body with kisses. When you find someone who does that for you, it is instinctive to want to do the same for them, that is what real love and passion are all about.
"You can have sex with anyone, but to make love you must be willing to devote your heart, and your body to the pleasure of your partner. Sex requires no such effort or commitment, but for a couple, the ability and the desire to make love are very important." Now ladies, can you believe a guy said that?? Of course, Son Gohan isn’t just any old guy though, he’s a good father and a young man I have known was very special since the moment I met him a long time ago. His wife Videl is a very lucky lady, to be sure.
And, he also brought up a very interesting point, making love is more work than casual sex, but it is also far more rewarding. This is not to say that it’s hard to make love, it is just important to remember that you are both supposed to enjoy your time together, if one of you is continually denied release, it’s damn hard to stay interested. But, on the other hand I warn you, really great lovemaking is addictive, once you’ve experienced it, nothing else will ever do. It also takes a while especially the first time, so if you really set the mood and do it right, you will not want to stop, so try to pick a night where you don’t have to do anything else. If possible, take the next morning off and do it again.
"When you make love, it should be because you love
each other. Passion cannot be created it must already exist. Never mistake
lust for passion, and always have enough respect for your lover to know
the difference." Gee whiz is this guy a sweetie or what, yep, that was
Gohan again. That Gohan, for such a sweet, innocent little kid, he sure
turned out to be a romantic, didn’t he? Anyway… lust and passion are similar,
but passion is special, it takes your hearts and lets you use your bodies
to show each other how you feel.
Since this chapter is devoted to the discussion of love as opposed to seduction or lust, I suppose we ought to jump right in at the beginning. Virginity… hmmm this word brings a blush to almost every woman’s cheeks at one time or another. The reason is that popular culture; media and our peers have taught us that one’s first time should be special. More often than not, however loosing our virginity is a BIG disappointment, or even frightening and painful.
Dating such a strong warrior, I knew it would hurt… but I had no idea that it would be scary. He had never taken a lover either, so it was inexperience on both of our parts, and I was afraid to ask why he was rushing me and why I wasn’t ready yet… I know he didn’t mean to hurt me, but my inner thighs my back and my legs hurt so bad that I had to crawl into the shower, and for what seemed like hours I sat on the floor of the shower and cried, wondering what I had done wrong. He liked it, so I couldn’t understand why I didn’t… This rather disturbing trend continued for a while. I was almost relieved when he lost interest in sex with me, until I saw him with his arms around someone else. Hurt and angry that I meant so little to him, I swore revenge… and I got it. Not only did I get my revenge, but I also got a husband and two wonderful children out of it, eventually.
I may not have had the barrier to prove it anymore, but in some ways I was still a virgin the first time Vegeta made love to me. Since I had never actually liked sex before, I was afraid, and nervous and desperate to feel close to someone, my forever nameless ex lost my trust, and my heart the night he took my virginity and hurt me with it. I just didn’t know how to let go, he was my first crush, boyfriend… everything.
Months of sexual tension were released with the first time Vegeta kissed me. I remember I was a little nervous already. But Vegeta held me so gently… as if I were a precious treasure. I wanted to cry it felt so right, his hands held me against him in all the right places, but without being demanding. He allowed his hands to touch me, very softly, slowly outside of my clothes, and his lips against mine were so warm and soft… I felt as if I were on fire, and yet he continued to move slowly. These were the sensations I had been told of and expected, but never found with my ex… I lost my heart and soul that night, and can truthfully say I am grateful to my former lover for cheating on me. If he hadn’t and I hadn’t caught him, I might never have known real love. No matter how often we make love, Vegeta always thrills me with the passion in his kisses and in his eyes. He knows my body better than I do I think, and has never left me still wanting him. Although if he still needs me, my body is only too happy to comply, it amazes me that after all this time, I still look into those dark eyes and see passion. It burns there, dark and mysterious it draws me to him as strongly now as it did that first night.
My ex never looked at me with that sort of passion, I saw desire in his eyes, but never the sort of passion I have with Vegeta. Pure lust is all that drew me into his bed and I didn’t know any better so I allowed him to have me, thinking that he’d eventually please me as I always tried to do for him… but it never happened. I can’t count how many nights I fell asleep crying, still wanting him but too shy to complain.
When making love to a new partner, my very talented lover/ husband Vegeta had some further advice for you guys out there… “ Especially if she is a virgin, use your experience to reassure her, but don’t ever force anything, or rush her. She won’t know that she needs to be extremely hot to get past her virgin’s pain, all she knows is she likes what you’re doing and she wants you. Listen to your instincts carefully, if you move too fast she will be hurt and afraid the next time. If your instincts tell you it’s too soon to take her, it probably is… pay attention to where she reacts most strongly to your touch and concentrate there for her first time. If you can get her to climax before you take her, she won’t ever want anyone else. Put aside everything you think you know about what other women like and concentrate on the one you are with. Don’t look at the time you spend together as being for teaching her. Her body will tell her what she wants and what she likes and if you don’t allow time her to learn her body, you’ll tell her that her pleasure is of no interest to you. There is really no point in seducing a woman if you aren’t going to give her what you’ve all but promised. Never stop listening to her body, because if you stop learning, then you stop improving, and then what kind of a teacher will you be? “
Years ago, Vegeta gave that advice to our son
and while I made him sleep on the couch for a week for his bluntness to
our already not so innocent 17-year-old son… I never did get the apology
I wanted. Oh well, that’s my Veggie-Chan. And believe me, I was more than
willing to give our daughter the birds and the bees’ talk after that. I
still shudder to think what he might have told her. Men… who knows, but
what he said is true, all of it. People have very different likes and dislikes
in bed, and just because your old girlfriend likes one thing, doesn’t mean
someone else will. And yes, it is very possible for a woman to climax without
being entered for the first time; it’s your hands or… your tongue on her
there. It supposedly lessens the pain of a girl’s first time to have an
orgasm right before her lover’s initial entry. But, I was only a virgin
once… literally, that is.
So, if respect and communication are the keys to
a fulfilling and interesting sex life or should I say love life, let’s
see how they can be brought together to make you a better lover. The techniques
and ideas presented in the rest of this book are meant for established
couples that are in love but not as compatible in bed as they would like
to be. Some chapters may not be suitable for those who are feint of heart
or prudish.
So, chapter 3 anyone?? Is anyone besides me laughing their ass off as they read this?? Next chapter… uh more virginity stories or foreplay?? I’m sorta leaning toward foreplay….
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